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Writer's pictureCassandra Hyland

A Counter-Intuitive Approach to Discipline That Actually Works...

Updated: Oct 2



You know the drill...

 

Another day, another battle over bedtime, chores, or homework.

 

You’ve tried it all—reasoning, pleading, even resorting to the dreaded countdown.

 

And yet, there you are, watching your little one defy the laws of nature by somehow making it stand still.. especially when it comes to cleaning up their toys.

 

Parenting can sometimes feel like a never-ending cycle of “How many times do I have to tell you?” moments.

 

It’s easy to think that the only way to get through to your child is by being firm, strict, and maybe even raising your voice just a little louder each time.

 

But here’s the kicker: flipping the script and focusing on the good could actually do the trick. Yep, It’s positive reinforcement.

 

That’s right. That IS the counterintuitive approach to discipline that doesn’t involve shouting or stress, and it might just change the game for you and your child.

 

You’re probably rolling your eyes now since you’ve heard about it before.

 

By now, it’s probably at the “DUUUUHHH” level of obvious for most people.

 

But there’s more to it than just handing out gold stars and saying, “good job.”

 

And in this blog, we’ll break down exactly why it works so well—and how you can use it in ways that make a real difference, both at home and beyond.

 

 

Why Positive Reinforcement Works So Well...

 

At the core, positive reinforcement is a simple, but VERY powerful idea.

 

People—especially kids—are more likely to repeat behaviours that get a positive reaction.

 

Our brains are hardwired to chase after those feel-good moments.

 

So, when your child gets a high-five for putting their toys away or hears you say how proud you are for finishing their homework, their brain lights up with dopamine—a chemical that makes them feel great.

 

And just like that, they’re more likely to do it again.

 

But it’s not just about getting them to do what you want.

 

Positive reinforcement also builds their confidence. Every time you acknowledge their efforts, they start to believe they can tackle new challenges.

 

It’s like planting seeds of self-belief that grows over time, which helps them become more independent and responsible.

 

It also makes them want to take on new tasks.

 

When they know you’ll recognise and appreciate their efforts, they’re more likely to step up, whether it’s trying to tie their shoes, helping out with chores, or tackling a tough homework problem.

 

One of the best parts about positive reinforcement is that it also helps to prevent those dreaded power struggles.

 

When you focus on rewarding the good instead of punishing the bad, your child sees you as an ally, not an adversary.

 

This makes them more cooperative and willing to listen.

 

Instead of feeling constantly criticised, they feel supported and understood.

 

This shifts the dynamic between you and your child, and it makes discipline smoother and more effective—no shouting required.

 

(Pro tip: This is also true for us adults. Positive reinforcement isn’t limited to just kids. Grown-ups respond well to positive reinforcement too. So if you’re running a team, try swapping out the stern reminders for a little praise when someone does something right. You might be surprised at how quickly things start to change. 😉)

 

The Long-Term Benefits of Positive Reinforcement

 

When positive reinforcement becomes a regular part of your parenting (or management) strategy, the long-term benefits are huge.

 

You’re not just encouraging good behaviour—you’re helping your child grow into a confident, motivated, and resilient person.

 

And it’s not just a discipline strategy either—it’s a way to build strong, healthy relationships and create an environment where everyone can thrive.

 

 

How We Apply Positive Reinforcement at Our Childcare Centre

 

When you use positive reinforcement, you’re not just shaping behaviour—you’re building a stronger, more trusting relationship with your child.

 

At Centenary Childcare Centre, we understand the importance of this approach.

 

Our programs are designed to encourage positive behaviours through praise, rewards, and a supportive environment that nurtures your child’s development.

 

We’re conveniently located near Middle Park and Mount Ommaney.

 

And we offer high-quality childcare and preschool programs that align with the positive reinforcement strategies we preach in this blog.

 

Our experienced educators are committed to fostering a love of learning and helping your child build the confidence and resilience they need to succeed.

 

You can learn more about our programs using the link below.

 

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